so before i wrote my latest post i had a discussion with my sister about it  Apparently i wasn’t the only one angered by this perception the world makes us believe hmmph. This was her input on the subject.             

       It is pretty scary to think about the world we live in now. In my generation, what seems to matter most is being popular, owning the most expensive things, living in a huge house, I mean it is all about fitting in. What happened to standing out? The most valuable quotes are now referred to as clichés. I mean people are more of church goers than Christians. This is why sharing with others and caring for others is such a big deal for us. And so is forgiving others and not expecting to get what we give back. We do not know what being a Christian means. Do not get me wrong I fall short too when it comes to some of these things. These days drinking and smoking is the new cool. Sleeping around and accepting to be cheated on is also a normal thing to do.

What has caught my attention is the fact that beautiful and incredible ladies have accepted the fact that, their husbands and boyfriends are going to cheat on them and that when that happens; we need to accept it and move on. I mean they even make arguments and laugh at people who dare to believe that not all men are like that. From where I am standing they are the funny ones. Seriously, why would you even stoop so low and degrade yourself like that.

Spouses are gifts from God. You need to pray for the right person to come your way and also at the right time. You just do not pray for just anyone but someone who is God-fearing. A God-fearing man fears God and knows the value of his relationship or marriage and will on no account cheat on his companion. Are you kidding me, you expect these young men of our generation who are mere church goers to understand what this means. No wonder some ladies think it’s normal for men to cheat. They don’t even know what they deserve and what is right. You settle for garbage just because you are ignorant.

All this comes down to one thing, get close to God and then leave these silly perceptions this silly generation has laid down for us as a reality. You’ll discover the most amazing things.

Phyllis toophab :)

This is something weighing on my heart and I need to address it. One of the things in this entire world that annoys me, gets me furious is the idea that both male and females have these days that ‘ all men cheat’ so if you have a man who cheats yet treats you good and all that’s okay. You should take it like that… girrrrrrrrl God did not take His precious time to create you and give you a purpose and breathe into you the breath of life to come on this earth to ‘take it like that’. Why would girls even believe such a fib and why would boys also embrace such a character trait proudly. There is so much wrong with our generation. SOOO MUCH! If people think I’m idiotic for thinking there are men who wont cheat then I think I’m equally entitled to also call those of you who think all men do stupid! fair??
 So I was reading someone’s blog and came across this post by a guy called Ebrahim Aseem and I must say his response to why Men cheat was incredible in my opinion so I want to share it before I continue. He said 

“Males cheat on loyal women to boost their ego. A woman can be perfect for him. Beautiful, career minded, own money, cooks, does whatever he wants her to do in bed, loyal, intelligent, educated, faithful and yet, he will still cheat on her with an ugly, kangaroo looking girl every time. But why?How a male treats a woman is NOT a reflection of HER worth. Nor is it a reflection on anything she LACKS or is not doing. An overly macho, mentally weak, sensitive-minded male knows he does not DESERVE a strong-minded woman. In his mind, he thinks one day she will mentally awaken to the realization she deserves better than him & leave him. This is why males cheat on a woman, to have POWER over her. He cheats on her to boost his ego. Most “males” are more insecure than women. Notice I referred to a “male” and not a “man”, as there is a distinct difference. Many males have VERY low self-esteem. You can tell, that’s why he says, “I only fuck with bad bitches”. He is saying this to convince himself, attempting to drown out his insecurities that are on repeat inside of his own mind.”

Ha!!! Cheating doesn’t make you cool, it makes you weak, and it makes you a coward. When I hear someone cheated I see the person as an insecure shallow bum! Like how can you even be proud about such an identity and ladies how can you even allow yourself to be involved with a child-minded person like this, all in the name of ALL MEN CHEAT. Well let me tell you now, there are men who will see and respect your value and not cheat on you, there are matured men who have no desire whatsoever to cheat. What even annoys me is that the girls are blamed for the cowardice and the girls too pick up this blame mantle. Like? Are you okay up there??
 Let me list some of the silly reasons boys give when they cheat. ‘She let herself go’ ‘I wanted to have some variety in my sex life’ ‘my girl/wife nags too much’ ‘this new girl listens to me’ ‘because we were made to want more than one woman’ (utter nonsense) ‘ she’s not who I fell in love with’  ‘because a friend cheated’ (doggie see, doggie do). Frankly I could go on for hours but the reasons just get dumber and shallow as I go on so I’d just stop here but what do you see here… well I see that all the reasons above lead to choice. He cheats because he CHOOSES to, because he wants to not because he HAS TO! No man was made with an automatic indestructible cheat program, if he cheats? it was his choice! I told someone recently that someone who fully understands the way God’s kingdom works and purpose and vision will not cheat on his partner. First of all because once again not all men cheat and secondly because a matured Christ conscious man walking according to the will of God knows that he NEEDS a woman to be able to accomplish his mission. God saw the responsibility He had for Adam and said for this mission of yours, it is not good for you to be alone so I shall make you a help meet then He made eve. A real Christian man knows that sex is not a reason you marry, its just a benefit, conversation and body size and ‘sex game’ and beauty  are not relevant things when it comes to God’s purpose of marriage. Ladies, you need to know your importance and set standards according to your importance and role in God’s kingdom.
Ebrahim Aseem also said “ “A Man” not a “male”  knows if he cheats, he would be not only cheating on a good woman, he would be cheating himself out of allowing a loyal woman to help mold him into a king.Many people argue men cheat, because his woman will not do what his women on the side will, but he would never even consider the option of having women on the side if he deserved her in the first place. Some men are genuinely not ready for a relationship. To force one with him is only creating a relationship death wish. The idea that men are incapable of being monogamous is false”

There are amazing men out there; the fact that you’ve run into a few or a lot of bad nuts doesn’t mean decent men who wont cheat don’t exist. Remember you sometimes attract a reflection of yourself so if you’ve had multiple men cheat on you, you need to revaluate your lifestyle and mindset. Don’t settle for a cheat because the world tells you that’s all you deserve or that’s all you’d get. Good men may cheat but Godly men wont. I’m in no way saying no Christian male has cheated, a lot of them have but what I’m saying first and foremost is that, there are Christians by titles and names and there are Christians by deeds. The ones who pick up the Christ like identity are the ones who wont. They understand the consequences of adultery; they understand the role of the woman in their lives and how she pertains to his destiny. Those are the men you should be looking out for but first before ask yourself if you are woman they deserve? Im not putting all this on the fellas because sometimes we woman are weak and disrespectful, we make too many demands, we are shallow minded; superficial and insecure and we wonder why we get men like that ? hmph! And to the men its not cool to be a cheat I repeat! You lose nothing from being faithful and loving your partner. It takes nothing from you, you see that friend who talks the talks about being unfaithful and trashing his girl? Are you 100% he’s acting on it? It would shock you that the same males who give you support and back you up are going back to their girls and treating them as the precious gems that they are. Ebrahim says






“Let’s be the men we want our sisters to marry, the men we want our daughters one day to be wifed by. Being a good man really is not that hard young king. All a Loyal Woman really wants from us as a man is us our attention. That’s all. And that’s not asking a lot at all. Don’t make her feel crazy for wanting us to give her consistency. Don’t have her second guessing if it’s too early to for her to expect us to be loyal, caring and faithful to her. It’s not; not at all.If we like her, if we want to spend time with her in any way, she DESERVES our undivided attention. Not half of our attention on her, and half on every other girl on these social networks. My sister said a man doesn’t deserve her time if we are not willing to give her our consistent attention. You may think that is a lot to ask but remember, in order to possess a treasure, one must in return give up what the treasure is WORTH; Loyalty.”

i couldn’t agree more! So girls, learn to love yourself, set standards and know your values, get connected to Christ, let Him show you your worth and show you how love and marriage should be so you don’t settle! seek Him first and He will present to you a him to meet your purpose and guys????? GROW UP! :/

This is something weighing on my heart and I need to address it. One of the things in this entire world that annoys me, gets me furious is the idea that both male and females have these days that ‘ all men cheat’ so if you have a man who cheats yet treats you good and all that’s okay. You should take it like that… girrrrrrrrl God did not take His precious time to create you and give you a purpose and breathe into you the breath of life to come on this earth to ‘take it like that’. Why would girls even believe such a fib and why would boys also embrace such a character trait proudly. There is so much wrong with our generation. SOOO MUCH! If people think I’m idiotic for thinking there are men who wont cheat then I think I’m equally entitled to also call those of you who think all men do stupid! fair??

 So I was reading someone’s blog and came across this post by a guy called Ebrahim Aseem and I must say his response to why Men cheat was incredible in my opinion so I want to share it before I continue. He said 

“Males cheat on loyal women to boost their ego. A woman can be perfect for him. Beautiful, career minded, own money, cooks, does whatever he wants her to do in bed, loyal, intelligent, educated, faithful and yet, he will still cheat on her with an ugly, kangaroo looking girl every time. But why?How a male treats a woman is NOT a reflection of HER worth. Nor is it a reflection on anything she LACKS or is not doing. An overly macho, mentally weak, sensitive-minded male knows he does not DESERVE a strong-minded woman. In his mind, he thinks one day she will mentally awaken to the realization she deserves better than him & leave him. This is why males cheat on a woman, to have POWER over her. He cheats on her to boost his ego. Most “males” are more insecure than women. Notice I referred to a “male” and not a “man”, as there is a distinct difference. Many males have VERY low self-esteem. You can tell, that’s why he says, “I only fuck with bad bitches”. He is saying this to convince himself, attempting to drown out his insecurities that are on repeat inside of his own mind.”

Ha!!! Cheating doesn’t make you cool, it makes you weak, and it makes you a coward. When I hear someone cheated I see the person as an insecure shallow bum! Like how can you even be proud about such an identity and ladies how can you even allow yourself to be involved with a child-minded person like this, all in the name of ALL MEN CHEAT. Well let me tell you now, there are men who will see and respect your value and not cheat on you, there are matured men who have no desire whatsoever to cheat. What even annoys me is that the girls are blamed for the cowardice and the girls too pick up this blame mantle. Like? Are you okay up there??

 Let me list some of the silly reasons boys give when they cheat. ‘She let herself go’ ‘I wanted to have some variety in my sex life’ ‘my girl/wife nags too much’ ‘this new girl listens to me’ ‘because we were made to want more than one woman’ (utter nonsense) ‘ she’s not who I fell in love with’  ‘because a friend cheated’ (doggie see, doggie do). Frankly I could go on for hours but the reasons just get dumber and shallow as I go on so I’d just stop here but what do you see here… well I see that all the reasons above lead to choice. He cheats because he CHOOSES to, because he wants to not because he HAS TO! No man was made with an automatic indestructible cheat program, if he cheats? it was his choice! I told someone recently that someone who fully understands the way God’s kingdom works and purpose and vision will not cheat on his partner. First of all because once again not all men cheat and secondly because a matured Christ conscious man walking according to the will of God knows that he NEEDS a woman to be able to accomplish his mission. God saw the responsibility He had for Adam and said for this mission of yours, it is not good for you to be alone so I shall make you a help meet then He made eve. A real Christian man knows that sex is not a reason you marry, its just a benefit, conversation and body size and ‘sex game’ and beauty  are not relevant things when it comes to God’s purpose of marriage. Ladies, you need to know your importance and set standards according to your importance and role in God’s kingdom.

Ebrahim Aseem also said “ “A Man” not a “male”  knows if he cheats, he would be not only cheating on a good woman, he would be cheating himself out of allowing a loyal woman to help mold him into a king.Many people argue men cheat, because his woman will not do what his women on the side will, but he would never even consider the option of having women on the side if he deserved her in the first place. Some men are genuinely not ready for a relationship. To force one with him is only creating a relationship death wish. The idea that men are incapable of being monogamous is false”

There are amazing men out there; the fact that you’ve run into a few or a lot of bad nuts doesn’t mean decent men who wont cheat don’t exist. Remember you sometimes attract a reflection of yourself so if you’ve had multiple men cheat on you, you need to revaluate your lifestyle and mindset. Don’t settle for a cheat because the world tells you that’s all you deserve or that’s all you’d get. Good men may cheat but Godly men wont. I’m in no way saying no Christian male has cheated, a lot of them have but what I’m saying first and foremost is that, there are Christians by titles and names and there are Christians by deeds. The ones who pick up the Christ like identity are the ones who wont. They understand the consequences of adultery; they understand the role of the woman in their lives and how she pertains to his destiny. Those are the men you should be looking out for but first before ask yourself if you are woman they deserve? Im not putting all this on the fellas because sometimes we woman are weak and disrespectful, we make too many demands, we are shallow minded; superficial and insecure and we wonder why we get men like that ? hmph! And to the men its not cool to be a cheat I repeat! You lose nothing from being faithful and loving your partner. It takes nothing from you, you see that friend who talks the talks about being unfaithful and trashing his girl? Are you 100% he’s acting on it? It would shock you that the same males who give you support and back you up are going back to their girls and treating them as the precious gems that they are. Ebrahim says

“Let’s be the men we want our sisters to marry, the men we want our daughters one day to be wifed by. Being a good man really is not that hard young king. All a Loyal Woman really wants from us as a man is us our attention. That’s all. And that’s not asking a lot at all. Don’t make her feel crazy for wanting us to give her consistency. Don’t have her second guessing if it’s too early to for her to expect us to be loyal, caring and faithful to her. It’s not; not at all.If we like her, if we want to spend time with her in any way, she DESERVES our undivided attention. Not half of our attention on her, and half on every other girl on these social networks. My sister said a man doesn’t deserve her time if we are not willing to give her our consistent attention. You may think that is a lot to ask but remember, in order to possess a treasure, one must in return give up what the treasure is WORTH; Loyalty.”

i couldn’t agree more! So girls, learn to love yourself, set standards and know your values, get connected to Christ, let Him show you your worth and show you how love and marriage should be so you don’t settle! seek Him first and He will present to you a him to meet your purpose and guys????? GROW UP! :/

WHY I PRAY VS WHY I SHOULD PRAY

So why do I pray? For some reason last night as I was here watching a TV show, that question popped in my head. Why do you pray Jewie? So I decided to give my answer here and then hopefully see if it aligns to the bible’s reason or God’s intention for prayer. If it doesn’t well we all learn something new then and it helps to give a positive spin on prayer if I knew its actual purpose.

 So why do I pray?  I pray to get revelations concerning my life. That is, when I pray, I want God to reveal some things concerning my future to me so I know what road to take when it gets there. I want to inquire if a desire or expectation I have is in accordance to His will for my life. I pray to deal with some situations. I believe that everything that happens in the physical is already made manifest in the spirit realm so when I pray I’m hoping to renounce and rebuke and change some things that were set by the devil to harm me.

 I pray because God is my Father, we need to communicate or fellowship. So I tell Him about my day, my plans, the cute boy I met but cant take Him serious because He lacks vision or isn’t even Christ conscious lol yes I tell God about that, I talk to Him about a friend I want to advise on an issue and if it’s a right move. We communicate with those we love no? So to respond to God’s love and to show that I do love Him, I spend time talking to Him, seeking counsel, apologizing, and making jokes. My uncle always says that he loves how I pray because I don’t approach God like a master and I’m the servant; I approach Him as a daughter going before Her Father.  In my opinion, you should ease up sometimes when going before Him. He sent Christ to die so you can have a Father Son/daughter relationship with Him. He’s not the boogieman or kakai (my Ghanaian family would understand this).  God already knows my mind doesn’t mean He doesn’t want to hear me say it. Our earthly parents sometimes know what’s bothering us or what we need but they still wait for us to ask them or go to them.

 I pray to enforce God’s will on my life. Romans 8:26 says we don’t know what we should pray for us we ought but the Holy Spirit gives us the utterance. Sometimes we don’t know what we should be praying for or even how to pray for what we should but that’s one of the purposes of the Holy Spirit. He aids in getting Gods will enforced in our lives. Okay so these are reasons I pray basically now I’m going to address why we actually should pray.

Prayer is a way we communicate with God. It reveals the will of God and makes available the power to execute this will but obedience is the objective. Prayer makes available what we need to execute God’s will but obedience to what is revealed to you and what you are told to do is what brings the manifestation. So obedience is what brings to light the will of God that prayer revealed and equipped us for.

 Okay so we all know prayer is important because amidst all the things that was going on in Jesus’ life when He came on earth, He still made time to pray. So it must be important, it must be required of us. We should pray because God has called us to pray through out the bible, we see messages about us praying. In 1 Thessalonians 5: 17 says to pray without ceasing, Colossians 4: 2 devote yourself to prayer, being watchful and thankful, Romans 12: 12 be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer, Philippians 4: 6 don’t be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving present your request to God. These are just a few of the verses where God calls us to pray. Prayer is an act of obedience. God is calling us to pray and so we must obey Him and respond. So our first ‘why’ should be because God calls us to pray in His word.  Someone would say why pray to God when He already knows our needs? Why tell Him our needs when He already has His plans? Lets get this straight once and for all.  WE DON’T PRAY TO INFORM GOD, WE PRAY TO INVOLVE /INVITE HIM. How can you inform the all knowing? He’s in your tomorrow before you, what can you tell Him that He doesn’t already know?

 God wants us to admit our needs to Him and to show Him the concerns of our hearts. Why would He want us to do this? It is because He wants to be involved in our day-to-day affairs. God knows us. He also knows what we need, better than we even know ourselves. Therefore, it is logical to seek Him to meet our needs. 2 Chronicles 16:9 says: “For the eyes of the Lord range throughout the earth to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to Him.” This simply says that God is actively interested in us and our needs. He will not intrude; instead He waits for our invitation. Prayer is an opportunity that everyone should take to invite God to become involved their lives.

 Second reason as I gave in my explanation of prayer is to enforce God’s will on us. We grew us praying the Lord’s Prayer ‘ thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven’. So yes we pray so that God’s will for us here on earth shall be established. Its one of the Hardest thing putting God’s will above ours but we need to learn to trust Him. He says in His word that even your earthly fathers know how to give good gifts, how much more Him? God has your best interest in mind. He will not create you and send His only son to die and restore your relationship with Him to give you gifts that aren’t meaningful or the ultimate best. I think it is important that we tell God what it is we think we need. It is also important to let God know our wants and our will. But we need to listen to God and find out what He thinks and what He knows we need. We must remember that God’s will is more important and much better for us than our own. We can tell God our wants and needs, but we need to tell him, “not my will be done, but let your will be done.” As the saying goes “let go, and let God.” Find out what God’s will is, and pray for it to happen. We really only have two choices: our will, or God’s will. Many times we think we know better, or know more than God, and desire for our will to be done but His will is important and His will is in our best interest. We execute His will through prayer, listening and obedience to what you hear.

 We pray because we are dependent on Him and we need Him for development in our lives. GOD DOESN’T NEED US, he wants us! However WE NEED GOD! He’s not a God in need of anything; God never wants us to live lives independent of Him. That’s why we tell God what He already knows. He knows what we have need of before we ask, but we’re specifically told to pray and to ask, not to impress or inform God, but to invite God, so that we might have that fellowship with Him, so that we might grow, and we would learn to depend upon Him. If God just did everything for us and we never had to pray, soon we would begin to take things for granted. We would cease to depend upon God. If we didn’t exist, God would still be complete because he needs no one else. God created us not because He needs us, but rather for His pleasure. He created us to worship Him. Galatians 6:3 says “For if anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself.” We should not fool ourselves into thinking God needs us. God is not made complete in us, but we are made complete in him. Colossians 2:10 says “and in Him you have been made complete, and He is the head over all rule and authority.”  We can’t pray to change His mind, or to enforce our will, or to inform Him because He doesn’t need us. We need Him and that’s why we should pray.

 Prayer gives us an upper hand to defeat our negative situations in the natural. As I said earlier, things that happen in the natural have it source or happen in the spirit, if we defeat it in the spirit through prayer, it cannot and will not be made manifest in the natural. We must remember as Christians we don’t war and fight against the flesh because we are spirit beings just living in a body so our war must be in the spiritual realm and we can only access that realm through prayer. Can physical strength help us overcome obstacles in the spiritual realm? Well No!! “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms” (Ephesians 6:12). But in prayer even the physically weak can become strong in the spiritual realm. As such, we can call upon God to grant us power over evil. So another reason we pray is to be empowered to tackle situations in the natural by tackling it in the spirit, also things are revealed to us through prayer so we walk in the natural with the consciousness of things revealed to us, it helps us avoid certain things and escape certain things.

 I hope this was a useful post to inform you about some of the purposes of prayer. I struggle with prayer myself because I didn’t know all its importance and how much difference my life can be if I took up prayer on a daily. Difficulty in making prayer a daily experience is pinpointing a serious weakness in our spiritual life. But with detection and acceptance of this weakness, we should not be saddened. Rather, we should let it be an incentive to intensify and be more persistent in our efforts to pray. Amen