I’ll start with the second question first:
God speaks to everyone uniquely. I have friends who literally HEAR God speaking to them. I have friends who hear from Him through dreams, and others who see visions. It’s hard to think God is speaking to you when you never experience Him like that- I certainly haven’t. But I believe God speaks to us uniquely because He knows none of us is like anyone else. To me, it’s mainly through music, reading, and writing. Sometimes I start a blog post, and I don’t even know what I’m going to write, and 30 minutes later, it’s done, like 7 pages long, and I’ve learnt a lesson from God in what I wrote myself. When I listen to worship music is when I hear Him most clearly because music is something I love dearly.
I remember the first time I ever heard from God. This was back after Junior High. There used to be this Christian library a friend started in his boys quarters, and I used to hang out there with my friends. I was walking and talking to God like I usually did- not really expecting Him to talk back. And I just thought up this question: “Why do we keep having to cover ourselves in the blood of Jesus when we’re scared? Isn’t it supposed to be done once and for all? Isn’t Your protection permanent for me as Your child?” And then out of nowhere, the answer popped into my head: “Because when you sin, the blood fades. It’s like why you have to keep asking for forgiveness- not because I haven’t already forgiven you- but because there is power in acknowledging your shortcomings and knowing that only I can help you to become whole again.”
And trust me, I was cheeeesing. I KNEW without a doubt that there was no way I could have come up with that answer myself.
And that’s what the voice of God is like for ME. It appears in the things that speak to me (music and writing), and also in this still small voice that can sometimes feel like I’m talking to myself. When I do something wrong, it chides me and doesn’t stop nagging until I make it right. When I do something right, it applauds me. When I’m worried, it gives me peace.
And to the first question: How do you learn to listen to God’s voice?
Here’s a lesson I learned. When you hear that small voice, the one you think is you just talking to yourself like you have some kind of split personality? Listen to it. Obey it. Next time you hear it? Listen and obey again. The more you listen and obey, the louder it gets. The louder it gets, the clearer it will be that it’s God.
God is not much of a shouter- I think He got tired of that in the old testament, because people never listened to Him either way. He won’t force His instruction or guidance on you. Learning to listen to God is like… picture it like this: A father leaving His daughter a trail of candies. One piece, then two, then three… If she doesn’t get tired and give up, satisfied with just 6 candies, eventually she’ll hit the jackpot.
The more you listen, the better you’ll be at listening, because it will be more clear, and you will know it’s God. But when you push it to the back of your mind, and you ignore it, the smaller His voice will become.
Everyone chooses to tell me their problems and that’s cool. I’ve always been that person who listens to other people’s problems and help them through situations but I’m rarely asked if I’m good. That’s cool but they fail to realize that I have burdens of my own to deal with and sometimes I really want to help them carry their burdens but my hands are full.
I hope you have the courage to pursue someone who is worth pursuing, and not someone who is convenient. Convenience is impatience disguised as your desires, you are worth more than what time has told you, you are worthy of finding someone who will wait for you; don’t settle for what is easy, settle for what is good.
Christianity is not an accessory. You don’t take it off because it doesn’t complement you at a specific time.